Fuck the kids, I got me some DDD's!
There's nothing I want more in my life than a divorce. Yes, I want a job, even a significant other, a career, to be a published author, to be cohost on The View, to run a successful seafood business in the south with a white guy...I digress.
No, I'm not married and trying to escape a no-good sonofabitch in my own personal Lifetime movie. I'm talking about my parents and their relationship or lack thereof. And I use the term "lack" just because I can't think of a better word.
My parents have been married for twenty-five years, and it's been pretty much downhill since then. Actually, I don't even think they were even in the plain to go downhill. Their marriage has been marked by infidelity, lies, selfishness, financial insecurity, and more, and even now that they are separated, it still hasn't let up. It's to the point that my mom wants to keep our getting a new furnace a secret because she doesn't want my dad to "come over and start some mess." To this day, my mom will have me call dad so he can do whatever needs to be done because she doesn't want to talk to him. Granted, talking to my dad is like talking to the stuff at the bottom of a port-a-potty, but why should I be in the middle of another one of their squabbles?
This is where Nas's spousal support is going.
And I'm always in the middle of their tumultuous relationship. Last week, my mother came to me about some note she wrote herself back in like '98. Apparently, she was arguing with my dad for whatever reason, and I began to cry since I was around them. My mom had to console me while my dad deuced. She also told me about a time when I was little where my dad locked my mom in my room when I was about three or four and they argued. I banged on the door while yelling, "What are you doing to my mommy?" Needless to say, my dad stopped whatever he was doing.
Clearly, I'm a fucked-up person, not only because of the individual faults of my parents but also because of their ridiculous relationship. My brothers aren't messed up in that regard, but they aren't always in the crossfire that is my parents' relationship. Even at twenty-one years old, I'm still rolling my eyes at the comments, the arguments, the accusations, the mistresses, what have you.
So this is why I don't understand all those people touting the "Stay together for the kids" bullshit. It doesn't work. All that happens is that you raise kids who are resentful, angry, and annoyed at all the bullshit. And you can never stay cordial when you're constantly cold toward each other, so you can't even raise your kids in a peaceful and nurturing environment. Kids are definitely affected by divorce, but they're also negatively influenced by staying together and arguing over petty stuff, like cleaning up the grass after you've cut the lawn. (o_o)
I say all this to say that if you feel led, you should get that young divorce. Why not? Be free! Get the right to get our swerve on, and enable yourself to have as good as a relationship with your ex as possible so your kids don't grow up looking like this dude:
Mommy and Daddy, why didn't you stay together? |Cuts self|*
So get a divorce! Skip what the Catholic Church says. Sometimes, there's nothing more holy and God-endorsed!
He's not worth it!
"We need to stay together for the kids!" My response?
*I have nothing but respect for Goth/Emo kids, but I do find you a little weird.
No, I'm not married and trying to escape a no-good sonofabitch in my own personal Lifetime movie. I'm talking about my parents and their relationship or lack thereof. And I use the term "lack" just because I can't think of a better word.
My parents have been married for twenty-five years, and it's been pretty much downhill since then. Actually, I don't even think they were even in the plain to go downhill. Their marriage has been marked by infidelity, lies, selfishness, financial insecurity, and more, and even now that they are separated, it still hasn't let up. It's to the point that my mom wants to keep our getting a new furnace a secret because she doesn't want my dad to "come over and start some mess." To this day, my mom will have me call dad so he can do whatever needs to be done because she doesn't want to talk to him. Granted, talking to my dad is like talking to the stuff at the bottom of a port-a-potty, but why should I be in the middle of another one of their squabbles?
This is where Nas's spousal support is going.And I'm always in the middle of their tumultuous relationship. Last week, my mother came to me about some note she wrote herself back in like '98. Apparently, she was arguing with my dad for whatever reason, and I began to cry since I was around them. My mom had to console me while my dad deuced. She also told me about a time when I was little where my dad locked my mom in my room when I was about three or four and they argued. I banged on the door while yelling, "What are you doing to my mommy?" Needless to say, my dad stopped whatever he was doing.
Clearly, I'm a fucked-up person, not only because of the individual faults of my parents but also because of their ridiculous relationship. My brothers aren't messed up in that regard, but they aren't always in the crossfire that is my parents' relationship. Even at twenty-one years old, I'm still rolling my eyes at the comments, the arguments, the accusations, the mistresses, what have you.
So this is why I don't understand all those people touting the "Stay together for the kids" bullshit. It doesn't work. All that happens is that you raise kids who are resentful, angry, and annoyed at all the bullshit. And you can never stay cordial when you're constantly cold toward each other, so you can't even raise your kids in a peaceful and nurturing environment. Kids are definitely affected by divorce, but they're also negatively influenced by staying together and arguing over petty stuff, like cleaning up the grass after you've cut the lawn. (o_o)
I say all this to say that if you feel led, you should get that young divorce. Why not? Be free! Get the right to get our swerve on, and enable yourself to have as good as a relationship with your ex as possible so your kids don't grow up looking like this dude:
Mommy and Daddy, why didn't you stay together? |Cuts self|*So get a divorce! Skip what the Catholic Church says. Sometimes, there's nothing more holy and God-endorsed!
He's not worth it!"We need to stay together for the kids!" My response?
*I have nothing but respect for Goth/Emo kids, but I do find you a little weird.
love this post. especially the kid at the end.
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